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We’re always told that trust is essential to a relationship so when you suspect that your partner is lying to you, it’s horribly frustrating. But there’s one thing worse and that’s when you know he or she is lying, but won’t own up.

I sincerely hope that everyone coupled person reading this hasn’t had to deal with this situation. I hope that you have evolved to the point where petty lies are a thing of the past and that you’re living happily ever after in the bright sunshine of love and honesty.

It would be more accurate to say that in the real world our normally perfect and wonderful partners have a couple of drinks too many on occasion, and that makes them do stupid things like make out with strangers at a bar. To top it off, they lie to us about it. If you need a little help in figuring out whether or not your partner is lying or you’re just paranoid, keep reading.

1. He/She repeats what you said

When your partner simply repeats your words back to you, it’s a tell tale sign that he or she is not being completely honest with you. This stall technique is a classic and give him or her more time to make up an answer they think you will believe. You probably remember doing the same thing in school when the teacher asked you a question that you didn’t know the answer to. Didn’t work then either, did it?

2. The eyes tell all

It’s said that eyes are the windows to the soul. In the case of a liar, he or she will not want to look straight into yours unless he or she is a pathological liar in which case you should just cut and run. If your lover is shifty eyed, take a glance at his or her pupils. If they’re spinning lies, their pupils will likely be dilated.

3. Discrepancies

The story went something like this; your guy (or gal) went out with their same sex friends, all night, and you’ve heard from a reliable source that he or she was up to no good. When asked, this idiot partner of yours keeps changing his story a little bit every time he tells it. Like he’s forgetting the truth! There’s only one thing to remember here; even if you’re stressed out, if your partner doesn’t believe what you’re telling them, you’re not going to “forget” the truth.

In fact, if someone is being honest, they are much more likely to really hammer in the same facts, over and over, in an attempt to make you understand. If his/her account of what did or didn’t happen is turning into a shape-shifting story, it could very well be made up.

4. He/She becomes overly defensive

This one can be tricky; if you go on the attack the response will be a defensive one which will make your partner look guilty even if he or she isn’t. If however you use a reasonable tone and the level of defense is out of proportion that could be their guilt swimming to the surface. Closely related to being too defensive is the use of language that is overly convincing.

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